- Do I get my deposit back after a relationship is over and I haven’t broken any hearts?
Many women feel that the potential of the man they are seeing is a matter of life or death. Instead of having fun playing with him (like a child with a favorite playmate), they evaluate his potential as a father. They situate any future relationship squarely in the realm of adulthood. The rest of their lives is at stake.
from: julia.nonsociety.com
Once, I dated a woman who said she doesn’t like people lying to her because she doesn’t lie. Instead of lying she will avoid answering the question or ask me back what do I think. She will also say; “I don’t want to talk about” and dismiss me.
Cute!! I always wondered if she thought I was that stupid so I lied my pants on fire about a bunch of bull shit. Well, can you blame me?
Society puts a lot of pressure on women. How they are suppose to behave, what they are suppose to do, and even what they are suppose to feel. Will a woman stand up and say; “I’m horny and just want you to take me to the back of a high school and do the dirty, dirty”? Probably, not.
It is only after they have reached their thirties that they realize they don’t have to lie about been superficial about their need for a very good hanky panky or a whats-that-a-hurricane type of sex.
Most women will say that this is actually the main reason for why they lie because … let’s admit it, it is our fault no matter how you as a guy want to see it.
She may have information she considers sensitive and isn’t sure whether to tell you about it. If you don’t know each other well yet, this could be a legitimate lie to protect others’ interests. As such, it should be seen as a relatively loyal gesture toward those she’s protecting. However, if you’re well into your relationship and she’s still hiding all sorts of information from you, she might have major trust issues.
Sometimes a liar justifies herself by saying that she only embellished the truth. Some people can win arguments and influence people just by emphasizing the right points — without really lying. On the other hand, she may lie outright in order to control the way you think or feel (typical woman’s behavior). If she tells white lies to win arguments or to twist you around her finger, you should watch out, because manipulation is a powerful tool.
If you’re concerned about that male coworker she’s been spending so much time with, she might lie about the time they spend together. This doesn’t mean that there’s anything going on (cough, cough !); she’s just doing what she wants without having you fret about it. How considered …
Him – “Honey what are you doing having sex with him?” -
Her – “It is nothing. I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to hurt you but what is important is where my heart is and my heart is with you”. -
My favorite. If she’s unsure of your temperament or intentions, she might try to test the waters. She could tell you a false story about a past relationship to see how you react. She might tell you her best friend thinks you’re cute to see if your eye wanders. This type of testing is meant to catch the bad guys before they get too close.
The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]
A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.
Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com
Image source : http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/
Pachanga Diaries is proud to present a series of PuertoDominican spanish sayings in honor to the most beautiful and intelligent women in my life …. my mom, Gladys.
While growing up my mom always gave me and my brother little pieces of advice about people, society and relationships.
Her ways of giving us advice were very amusing and insightful.
There are so many sayings I perhaps won’t remember but she is just one call away from me.
Here is the first piece of advice from;
The Book of Gladys
Beware of the person who is always happy. It is just not normal. Chances are this person is about to kill someone.
My interpretation
Don’t pursue 24/7 happinness, it is impossible. We are humans, it is normal to be depressed, sad, and dissapointed. Allow yourself to be human. Don’t hold grudges. Define transitional happines, no lifetime happiness.
Polly talks about how couples should communicate and come to an agreement about Christmas family reunions and traditions.
We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009. Most likely, if you are a guy you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do -
By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.
First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.
Human Misery
Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.
During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.
Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.
- I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle -
Six Basic Rules of Improvisation
In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.
Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.
As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.
So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation - The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;
Example:
- Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
- You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.
Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.
Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?
Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).
Dancing
Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.
In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.
Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.
Wishing you the best this new year,
Pachanga Diaries
After watching this video I realize it is time for a mental note. Let’s recap on how to undo her bra with one hand.
Non Socialite Pachanga Diaries has always been confused and fascinated by how women think.
Does she want me to want to want her?
Is she going to like this set of pots for Christmas?
- She has been talking about it the whole year.
What does she mean when she asks; What are you thinking?
- What? am I thinking right now?
Video Recap
Now, ready to make the move to second base. Soft kissing is obligatory as well as hair stroking … and more hair stroking.
Must remember; “the bra is my enemy“.
Cold hands are not sexy therefore I should wash my hand with warm water … and make sure they are dry.
Practice Luke, practice. The pinch is probably the most difficult part of this video. At least is what I’d heard …
Want to learn more?
It has been tough for some of my male friends to read the signs women send when they are loosing interest. One of them asked me, – “how can I tell when the passion is gone? Is it when she start complaining about my socks on the floor?” You are asking me? I have no clue – I thought. But, here are seven signs to watch for;
My dear friend, watch this funny video about “How to tell when a relationship is over”.
Ever wondered why does she take so long in the shower?
Ever wondered what is that he does in the bathroom?
Here is the answer to those mysteries of life.
Thank you Sebastien for this very funny video.
It is always fascinating to observe human behavior. In a relationship, once pass the courtship stage most men start feeling perhaps too comfortable. This is when women begin to re-consider staying single.
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