Women Do It, And Men Too
June 22nd, 2011
- Women do it at the Beginning, Men do it at the End. What is it? I’ll buy you a drink if you guess.
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A Woman’s Body
May 22nd, 2011
- woman’s body is like a buffet, grab a little bit of everything, save space for desert.
She’s a keeper if
May 17th, 2011
- She’s a keeper if . . . she has at least one non–work-related hobby she’s passionate about. It means she knows how to have fun without a man and that she won’t need you constantly by her side.
She Is A Keeper If …
May 17th, 2011
- She’s a keeper if . . . she has at least one non–work-related hobby she’s passionate about. It means she knows how to have fun without a man and that she won’t need you constantly by her side.
Am I Hot Or Not?
April 27th, 2011
- hotornot.com says I’m a 9.2 hotty !! Nice !! I wonder what kind of women are ranking my pic?
Avoiding Getting Hurt and Starvation
March 20th, 2011
Avoiding falling in love because you might get hurt is like not eating because you might get diarrhea
Matter of Life or Death
July 23rd, 2009
Many women feel that the potential of the man they are seeing is a matter of life or death. Instead of having fun playing with him (like a child with a favorite playmate), they evaluate his potential as a father. They situate any future relationship squarely in the realm of adulthood. The rest of their lives is at stake.
from: julia.nonsociety.com
The Thing That Gives You Pleasure
June 1st, 2009
The very thing that gives you pleasure today will give you pain tomorrow, or it will leave you, so its absence will give you pain.
- Eckhart Tolle
6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009
December 30th, 2008
We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009. Most likely, if you are a guy you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do -
By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.
First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.
Human Misery
Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.
During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.
Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.
- I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle -
Six Basic Rules of Improvisation
In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.
Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.
As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.
So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation - The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;
- Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”
Example:
- Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
- You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.
- Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.
Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.
- Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.
Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?
Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?
Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?
- Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
- Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
- Why is your partner moving away from you?
- Why did she use a questioning tone?
- What did the slight smile mean?
- How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?
Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).
- Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than: You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
Rather than: You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
- Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of stasis and stagnation.
Dancing
Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.
In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.
Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.
Wishing you the best this new year,
Pachanga Diaries
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Sex And The Matrix
March 9th, 2007
What could be better than my two favorites, Sex and the City and The Matrix? Sex and the Matrix.
The sweet smell of plastic keyboards and channel or perhaps Red Door.
The funniest thing I have seen in a while.
Mindy Raf: What was going through my head. . .
January 4th, 2007
One of my favorite online comedians, Mindy Raf, wrote a very funny song about what women go through with some guys. Here is her website http://www.mindyraf.com/
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