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Signs of Passive Aggressive Behavior
The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]
- Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
- Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control.
- Fear of competition
- Fear of dependency
- Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often can’t trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
- Making chaotic situations
- Making excuses
- Obstructionism
- Sulking
- Victimization response: instead of recognizing one’s own weaknesses.
A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.
Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com
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Robot Dance Competition
During new year’s eve I got together with probably Boulder Best Robot Dancers. We decided to have a friendly competition. This are not your typical popping dance moves. Watch the video and let us know who won;
The video camera didn’t have enough battery to film the robot dancing style I learned from David Elsewhere but here is a very similar example …
6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009
We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009.By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.
First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.
Human Misery
Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.
During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.
Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.
- I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle -
Six Basic Rules of Improvisation
In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.
Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.
As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.
So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation - The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;
- Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
- Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
- You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.
- Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.
- Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?
Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?
- Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
- Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
- Why is your partner moving away from you?
- Why did she use a questioning tone?
- What did the slight smile mean?
- How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?
Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).
- Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Rather than: You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
- Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Dancing
Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.
In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.
Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.
Wishing you the best this new year,
Pachanga Diaries
Christmas Dancing Moves 2008
Every year, during the holidays me and my posse prepare something special for the Pachanga Diaries fans. This year we spent some time rehearsing our Christmas Dancing Moves 2008 here in comedy city. I gathered around my non society friends that are always dancing and having a good time no matter what. For this video dance off we decided to dress up as elves and shake it out there disco style. Stay tuned for the coming up video updates;
- HipHop Lip Dub
- Snowboarding Crash
Christmas Joke
- Why was Santa’s little helper depressed? Because he had low elf esteem. Do you want more Christmas jokes? I’m having an Update Christmas Jokes series until the 24th. Follow me on; http://www.twitter.com/pachangadiaries
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Back to the Future
or travel back in time to 1977, when I first asked a girl to dance, by clicking on; http://www.pachangadiaries.com/1977/01/back-to-the-future/
Might Have Found a Cellphone
Nonsociety Miss M. might have found a winner … cellphone.
How to Try On Lipstick at the Store
Nonsociety Marisa teaches how to try lipstick a the store.
Being Pachanga Diaries
Very much like the movie Being John Malkovich nowadays we have technology to easily know how is it to be inside someone else mind.
No, I’m no talking about a secret tunnel behind some filing cabinets. That was the exisitng technology back then when that movie was filmed.
Today, we have twitter.com. Twitter allows you to share your thoughts with your friends, even from your cellphone.
This is a great tool for marketing your business and/or brand.
What? you don’t get it … You don’t have to.
Play with Twitter and you’ll get hooked. I could go on and on about why these tools are addictive and give you a bla, bla, bla for 30 minutes over coffee but I won’t.
Follow me on twitter;
Obama! Election Night Street Party in Boulder
Video clips from Tuesday night 10:30 pm to 12:45 on election night on Pearl Street and Broadway.
An informal PARTY in the streets – people were EVERYWHERE, dancing and cheering, hi-fiving, hugging, smiling … it was AWESOME!
Every time the traffic lights went red for the cars, people jumped into the intersection to dance and hug each other. An hour and a half later the police showed up and closed Broadway street diverting cars to go around the interception. Eventually a rasta drummer showed up with a conga we everybody went singing “yes, we can”
Extreme Climbing – Accomplishment #2
Continuing the countdown to my birthday here is the second accomplishment of my life; extreme climbing.
About a year and a half ago I decided to become an extreme climber. Not just a normal climber but an extreme one. I like living dangerously, fast and furious. That’s how I roll.
Enjoy and don’t try this at home.
P.S.
Potluck picnic at the creek is winning the Ideas for da’ bday contest.
Keep those ideas coming.
August Birthdays
Also, Kim, Rob and Hillary have a birthday in August as well.
Two Weeks from Today – Accomplishment #1
It is going to be that time again … my birthday.
I have been thinking about my accomplishments through out these thirty something years. Here is the first one of a series;
Accomplishment #1 – Photocrashing
Now, I was thinking to go to the Med on Wednesday, August 20, 2008 to get together and celebrate. But, someone always gets screwed paying more for his/her meal or someone who ate the most decided to split the check in equal parts instead of having everybody pay for what they ate.
So, I’m leaving the solution in your hands.
Actions:
Please, recommend an activity that doesn’t take advantage of my birthday for someone to profit. For example; potluck, get together at the reservoir, or everybody grab his/her own beer. Or picnic at a park for example.
Let me know of your ideas.
V.
My Downtown Neighborhood
After four years of living in an apartment in South Boulder, I decided it was time for change. I said goodbye to the view to the mountains and an encyclopedia of memories. Good times ! I never realized that it was possible to live in downtown Boulder for just fifty dollars more of rent. Note to Self; Learn the mysterious femenine art of shopping. Apparently, there is a reason they just wander around looking for those discounted signs with big % symbols.
How did I find an apartment so affordable?
Glad you ask. On a Saturday morning after working at my favorite coffee shop, Saxy’s cafe, I decided to stroll around the neighborhood. Two blocks away from Pearl street I found this beautiful one bedroom apartment with a balcony and a view to downtown it was difficult for me to believe. So many whiskeys and cokes this one-bed has seen already. So many “tipsy” nights without having to worry about DUI’s. Remember, whenever in downtown stop by and we’ll get together to grab a beer at the Irish Pub..
How to Undo Her Bra with One Hand
After watching this video I realize it is time for a mental note. Let’s recap on how to undo her bra with one hand.
Non Socialite Pachanga Diaries has always been confused and fascinated by how women think.
Does she want me to want to want her?
Is she going to like this set of pots for Christmas?
- She has been talking about it the whole year.
What does she mean when she asks; What are you thinking?
- What? am I thinking right now?
Video Recap
- Flowers
- Romantic comedy
- Listen more than I talk
- Tasteful Jokes
- Shave and spray
- Tongue scrapping
Now, ready to make the move to second base. Soft kissing is obligatory as well as hair stroking … and more hair stroking.
Must remember; “the bra is my enemy“.
Cold hands are not sexy therefore I should wash my hand with warm water … and make sure they are dry.
Practice Luke, practice. The pinch is probably the most difficult part of this video. At least is what I’d heard …
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