Why Women Control Sex?
November 8th, 2009
Some women control sex to test if a man will stick around despite. If men control sex, women dump them.
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Tired of Being Single During Those Days
September 24th, 2009
Crying During Sex
September 2nd, 2009
From Julia Allison’s website
Ask any man about women crying during sex and you’ll get a strange reaction.
First, there’s The Blank Stare – they have no idea what you’re talking about.
Then there’s the silence, which lasts … and lasts … enough time for you to rethink the three glasses of champagne you had before you brought up the damn topic.
Just as you’re planning an escape route, he gives you this look – like you’ve somehow seen into his bedroom, circa high school. He’s astounded. “Once,” he says. Or maybe “Yeah, twice, it was weird.”
The confusion is palpable. He still has no idea what happened.
I swear, I’ve had the exact same conversation with dozens of guys – all ages, all types. Sometimes I try to piece together the story.
Me: “What did you do after she started crying?”
Him: “Nothing. I just lay there.”
Me: “umm … okay. Did she say anything?”
Him: “Yep, she rolled over and said, ‘I love you.’”
Ah-ha!
continue reading at;
http://julia.nonsociety.com/lifecast/176876259
Life Mystery Solved. Two Out of Three Theory
August 8th, 2009
Most people always wonder why can’t they understand the opposite sex. There is a theory I have developed after three years of scientific research, countless interviews with psychologists and whiskeys and coke.
Two Out of Three Theory
Before we are born we get to choose two options out of three; Looks, Brains or Penis
This explains;
- Why we guys could be devilish handsome but not too smart
- Women don’t understand guys
- Why Men have body hair
- Why women have evolved and adapt faster than men
- Why women can multitask
- Why men can’t talk emotions or lie, I mean know how to lie
Definition of a Real Man
July 15th, 2009
1. A married man that once he gets divorced doesn’t belong to that category
2. The opposite of a dildo
3. A Bratt Pitt look alike with tons of money that has no eyes but for the woman who is looking for a “real man”
4. A man who keeps changing his personality at the request of a woman until he doesn’t know who he is
5. A man with a job who listens and does not watch sports and doesn’t have a penis
6. A man who can read woman’s mind and act accordingly
Definition of a Real Woman
July 15th, 2009
Why Women Lie
July 9th, 2009
“Men lie the most, women tell the biggest lies” – Chris Rock
She Aikido Lies to you
Once, I dated a woman who said she doesn’t like people lying to her because she doesn’t lie. Instead of lying she will avoid answering the question or ask me back what do I think. She will also say; “I don’t want to talk about” and dismiss me.
Cute!! I always wondered if she thought I was that stupid so I lied my pants on fire about a bunch of bull shit. Well, can you blame me?
She is horny but won’t admit it
Society puts a lot of pressure on women. How they are suppose to behave, what they are suppose to do, and even what they are suppose to feel. Will a woman stand up and say; “I’m horny and just want you to take me to the back of a high school and do the dirty, dirty”? Probably, not.
It is only after they have reached their thirties that they realize they don’t have to lie about been superficial about their need for a very good hanky panky or a whats-that-a-hurricane type of sex.
She doesn’t trust you
Most women will say that this is actually the main reason for why they lie because … let’s admit it, it is our fault no matter how you as a guy want to see it.
She may have information she considers sensitive and isn’t sure whether to tell you about it. If you don’t know each other well yet, this could be a legitimate lie to protect others’ interests. As such, it should be seen as a relatively loyal gesture toward those she’s protecting. However, if you’re well into your relationship and she’s still hiding all sorts of information from you, she might have major trust issues.
She’s manipulative
Sometimes a liar justifies herself by saying that she only embellished the truth. Some people can win arguments and influence people just by emphasizing the right points — without really lying. On the other hand, she may lie outright in order to control the way you think or feel (typical woman’s behavior). If she tells white lies to win arguments or to twist you around her finger, you should watch out, because manipulation is a powerful tool.
Wait until she starts controlling sex. Manipulation is a bitch!!
She doesn’t want you to worry
If you’re concerned about that male coworker she’s been spending so much time with, she might lie about the time they spend together. This doesn’t mean that there’s anything going on (cough, cough !); she’s just doing what she wants without having you fret about it. How considered …
Him – “Honey what are you doing having sex with him?” -
Her – “It is nothing. I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to hurt you but what is important is where my heart is and my heart is with you”. -
She’s testing you
My favorite. If she’s unsure of your temperament or intentions, she might try to test the waters. She could tell you a false story about a past relationship to see how you react. She might tell you her best friend thinks you’re cute to see if your eye wanders. This type of testing is meant to catch the bad guys before they get too close.
Remember; women give you drama to see if you can handle it. It is a unconscious mental challenge for them. Never loose or change who you are just to please someone. Make a real attempt to find your inner self and then change. Consider others’ opinions and read from the experts.
Women will love you if change for them and then they want more.
She wants to keep the upper hand
She might withhold information to maintain a sense power over you. For instance, if a mutual friend tells her something important, she may keep it from you so that she has the inside scoop. Or she might just keep things from you to keep you at a disadvantage; that way, she can pick and choose what to tell you and when.
Final Thought
In summary, men are bad liers because women are so freaking good at it.
Reference: http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/167_dating_girl.html
Why Men Don’t Open Emotionally?
June 30th, 2009
Most women build up everything they’re thinking inside until they have to let it out in one big emotional release. And guess what men see when this happens? No, they don’t see how much you care or love them and how amazing it is that you want to be with them. Somehow instead of seeing the good and the positive intentions you have, they see intense negative emotions that they can’t understand.
And men get scared of emotions that are really intense or that they don’t understand. Men aren’t used to emotions. When you share your feelings and want to know his feelings for you, he freaks out. He either becomes;
- the “deer-in-headlights” guy or
- the “angry-frustrated-scared” guy
Most women do what makes sense in this situation – they push and encourage the man to talk, to get in touch with his feelings and to share HER feelings. But men don’t see it as positive encouragement. They see it as you being “over-emotional” and pushy about the issue.
The WORST mistakes you can make are;
- Assuming – that he knows what you want or expect
- Begging – for him to “give you” what you want
- Convincing – trying to make him feel the way you do
- Bullying – bullying him into your way of thinking or feeling
- Ask for his deepest, darkest secret
Would you, as a woman, feel great if he tries to teach you how to play football and he bullies and assumes you should be fine with been hit to the floor within the first 10 minutes of the game? Probably not. That is exactly how it feels.
Also, remember that women will test a guy’s character and pull him into the emotional zone just to see if he can handle it. Some women are not even interested on the guy or have already made up their mind about breaking up with him and KNOW he will react this way. Then, they say; “I broke up with him because he did not understand my emotions”
The female brain is so complex and works in so many deceptive ways. Beautiful!!
Why Guys Don’t Call
June 29th, 2009
One of the ethernal questions about men’s behavior. Recently, like I always do, I made it about me. Yes, why do I do the things I do. It is NOT someone else’s fault but mine. I have decided to go on the difficult task of explain why men do the things they do. No, it is not just sex what drive us. Other reasons will be uncovered in this Pachanga Diaries series; Undertanding Why Men Are Jerks
Why Guys Don’t Call
Like women, guys also send missignals and miscommunicate. Different from women guys, won’t test your character just to see if you can handle it (tricky women). In an attempt to be considered and polite most guys will try not to be jerks and handle situations with a minial confrontation.
- That is fine but we had the best time during our date, and then he doesn’t call – you might be thinking.
If the women is looking for something more serious than what he wants, they probably won’t call.
- Wait a minute !! Women have done this to me too – . Exactly, it is called “You are fun but not serious enough” syndrome.
Are we really that different? Discover the reason behind;
Why did he go back to his ex when things were going well?
In tomorrow’s episode of “Why are Men Jerks” series
Coming Up
- Why doesn’t he open emotionally?
- Why he never makes plans?
- Why is he obsessed with me after I have broken up with him?
Any other questions? Please, ask in the comment box below
Women’s “I Don’t Want You But, Want You To Want Me” Behavior
June 17th, 2009
We guys don’t get it.
Women are easy to understand. We just have to understand that they respect our decisions. They want you to want what they want you to want.
It is all.
Watch this episode of web therapy.
Signs of Passive Aggressive Behavior
April 26th, 2009
The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]
- Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
- Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control.
- Fear of competition
- Fear of dependency
- Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often can’t trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
- Making chaotic situations
- Making excuses
- Obstructionism
- Sulking
- Victimization response: instead of recognizing one’s own weaknesses.
A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.
Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com
Image source : http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/
Why Are Women Have More Tendencies to Cheat
March 30th, 2009
Scientists have now looked at MHC compatibility among romantic couples and they report that the more genes in this system that a couple share, the more sexually unfaithful the woman is and the more she is attracted to other men during in the middle of her menstrual cycle—when she is ovulating and likely to get pregnant.
I guess this explains why women find exotic men irresistible. Read more at; http://helenfisher.typepad.com/helenfisher/2007/02/lovefrom_from_a.html
How to Ruin a Date by Having an Amazing Memory
January 26th, 2009
Most people read tons of magazines and books. Most guys read about literature, cars, newspapers, science, technology, psychology, philosophy, Greek philosophy, European philosophy, politics, who thinks this or that, and what’s happening here and there.
Information, information, information
Unfortunately, our society teaches us to consume information; useful and useless information.
We are taught to accumulate knowledge whether it is interesting to us or not. We stop listening when we fill our brains with information.
Most men accumulate great quantities of information, these are the good guys. They want to be praised and admired by how much information they know even if it is not actionable.
Where am I going with this? Having an amazing memory not necessarily means that you gonna get the girl. Remember the bad boy? How does he do it? He does know nothing, he has no conversation topics but he still gets the girl.
STOP selling your memory and start taking action.
Which action?
Talk a little 20%, Listen 80%
6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009
December 30th, 2008
We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009. Most likely, if you are a guy you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do -
By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.
First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.
Human Misery
Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.
During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.
Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.
- I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle -
Six Basic Rules of Improvisation
In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.
Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.
As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.
So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation - The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;
- Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”
Example:
- Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
- You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.
- Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.
Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.
- Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.
Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?
Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?
Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?
- Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
- Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
- Why is your partner moving away from you?
- Why did she use a questioning tone?
- What did the slight smile mean?
- How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?
Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).
- Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than: You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
Rather than: You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
- Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of stasis and stagnation.
Dancing
Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.
In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.
Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.
Wishing you the best this new year,
Pachanga Diaries
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